We all need to take care of our mental well being whether we have a mental health problem or not. It’s understandable that our mental health can decline when trying to cope with worry and uncertainty in our lives.
It’s already well documented that the impact of the pandemic is taking it’s toll on people’s mental health.
According to the ONS, almost one in five adults were likely to be experiencing some form of depression during the coronavirus pandemic in June 2020 and this had almost doubled from around 1 in 10 before the pandemic (July 2019 to March 2020).
Last year, 5,691 suicides were registered in England and Wales and around three quarters of these were among men.
It’s not yet clear what impact the pandemic will have on those figures but what is clear is that known risk factors for suicide are being exacerbated by it.
Recently the first global data set was released by the WHO* on the impact of Covid-19 on access to mental health services. The survey, evaluated how the provision of mental, neurological and substance use services had changed due to the outbreak of Covid-19.Of those surveyed, more than 120 countries (93%) reported that mental health services had been stopped or disrupted during the pandemic.
Somewhat frighteningly, the WHO also states that prior to the pandemic, countries were spending less than 2% of their national health budgets on mental health, which meant they were already struggling to meet the needs of the populations back then.
The new disruptions to services are a cause for concern particularly because the pandemic has increased demand for mental health services, due to issues such as bereavement, isolation and fear.
What is abundantly obvious is that it's crucial we try to find ways to look after ourselves and others where we can. Confiding in loved ones if you re struggling is advisable but sometimes not everyone will feel as though they can do that or they may be worried that they will burden others if they do.
Through my professional position, I can find myself privy to some of people's most painful secrets and worries. Emotional weight can manifest itself in a multitude of ways and if unresolved or unaddressed can be as damaging as physical stress can be.
And interestingly what I've noted over the years is that there is no "Type" it can literally affect every one of us.
Secondly us human beings can be masters of outwardly portraying that we're ok when we're very much not. Social media posts are a perfect example of this: we often present and curate images of ourselves that we want others to see but which are not always a true representation of our lives.
So of course why would anyone think for a moment that the guy happily swinging his children around his garden on FB might secretly be struggling with coping with the ever mounting weight of daily expectation on his shoulders? Or the 20 something, apparently nailing life, but when alone can't stand to look at themselves without utter repulsion, or the mum who is outwardly genial at the school gates but who most days feels desperately alone and sad.
We are absolutely brilliant at hiding our vulnerabilities if we want to and it seems to me that if our demons were visible and external manifestations, we'd likely be a lot faster to acknowledge and address them.
But as they re not, perhaps then we should ourselves be proactive in reaching out to people to see if they need help?
I'm not in anyway professing that we can fix everything just by asking someone if they re ok. I do believe though that a little thought and kindness can go along way and by opening a dialogue we can subsequently open doors.
Making that move to ask someone if they re doing ok at the moment or just a text to tell them we're thinking of them and they re not forgotten can make a world of difference to some.
There's no question Mental health services need more funding and a campaign launched this year by ITV in conjunction with Mind aims to encourage everyone to take action to improve their own mental and physical health.
It's ultimately about encouraging people to connect and letting others know you re there for them which is exactly what this blog is about. You can read more about the campaign Britain Get Talking
https://www.itv.com/britaingettalking
here.
It's the author's opinion that often we can often place everything else before our own mental health. Burn out is horribly common for example and I know that subsequently many people found the initial lockdown back in March a welcome opportunity (albeit one borne out of a horrendous world scenario) to press pause for a while.
What I would like to see is that the world becomes a little better at talking to each other because of
the obvious physical distancing from each other at the moment. Now we dont have as much opportunity to be near each other as before it's even more important to stay connected to those around us who may be struggling and to start up conversation.
(If you or someone you know are truly struggling to cope, as well as your GP there are a number of organisations that you can contact detailed below and that will always be there for anyone that needs it)
Samaritans
24 hours a day, 365 days a year. You can call 116 123 (free from any phone), email jo@samaritans.org or visit some branches in person.
SANEline. If you're experiencing a mental health problem or supporting someone else, you can call SANEline on 0300 304 7000 (4.30pm–10.30pm every day).
The Mix. If you're under 25, you can call The Mix on 0808 808 4994 (Sunday-Friday 2pm–11pm), request support by email using this form on The Mix website or use their crisis text messenger service.
Papyrus
HOPELINEUK. If you're under 35 and struggling with suicidal feelings, or concerned about a young person who might be struggling, you can call Papyrus HOPELINEUK on 0800 068 4141 (weekdays 10am-10pm, weekends 2pm-10pm and bank holidays 2pm–10pm), email pat@papyrus-uk.org or text 07786 209 697.
Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). If you identify as male, you can call the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) or use their webchat service.
Nightline. If you're a student, you can look on the Nightline website to see if your university or college offers a night-time listening service. Nightline phone operators are all students too.
Switchboard. If you identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, you can call Switchboard on 0300 330 0630 (10am–10pm every day), email chris@switchboard.lgbt or use their webchat service. Phone operators all identify as LGBT+.
C.A.L.L. If you live in Wales, you can call the Community Advice and Listening Line (C.A.L.L.) on 0800 132 737 (open 24/7) or you can text 'help' followed by a question to 81066.
Helplines Partnership. For more options, visit the Helplines Partnership website for a directory of UK helplines. Mind's Infoline can also help you find services that can support you. If you're outside the UK, the Befrienders Worldwide website has a tool to search by country for emotional support helplines around the world.